Men who want to stop premature ejaculation should start thinking more about spending quality time at the starting gate and less about their fears of finishing too soon. That starting gate we’re referring to is the art of foreplay. If ever there was a time to share extra kissing and petting with your partner, this is it. Focusing on the fundamentals (emphasis on FUN) of foreplay can help keep your sexual play last longer by pushing back the timing of those intense sensations that might find a man releasing way too soon.
First Learn to Breathe
Helping yourself stop premature ejaculation should start with the breath. When you can control your breathing and really load your body at the cell level with oxygen, you will be more in command of your body’s function overall.
Ujjayi is an ages-old extended breathing technique commonly used in asana yoga and meditation practices. The breath is inhaled and exhaled through the nose, slowly and deeply, creating a bit of ventilator sound or like that of an ocean wave. Beginning a ujjayi breathing practice, where you are controlling deep breaths in and out, might work wonders with a man’s ability to control the timing of his ejaculations, too. Thinking of some positive affirmations while practising controlling your breathing and filling your cells to capacity with oxygen might also be helpful.
Sometimes the ability to stop premature ejaculation starts with having more connection and influence with your breath and your thoughts first.
Make Foreplay the Main Event
If women are your sexual partners of choice, you’re in luck here. Foreplay is a big plus with the ladies and they are often happy to focus on this portion of the program for as long as possible. So give them what they want while giving yourself more time to keep it together before the spotlight turns to your undependable erection.
If you suffer from consistent early ejaculation, you probably know by now what sensations will quickly trip your trigger. So avoid those at first with your hopefully patient and understanding partner. Focus on their pleasure while you breathe deeply, relax and have fun with all the delights that extended foreplay can bring to you both.
- Massage – Giving your lover a slow, sensual massage before sex will give them the very pleasurable impression that lovemaking is lasting a lot longer than usual. Your hands are the only parts of your body being stimulated and your partner will be even more ready for intercourse or other sexual play when you decide to make that happen. One of the best ways to stop premature ejaculation is to focus your thoughts and play on their pleasure at first, not your own.
- Play a board game – No, we’re not talking about those popular family board games. There are lots of just-for-grown-ups sex themed board games available for purchase or you can create your own. Playing a foreplay game can keep things fun and lively without getting too sexy too soon, if you can keep the stimulation of your naughty bits out of the initial game play.
- Play strip poker – The clothes come off slowly, building desire slowly, too.
- Neck like college students – If lots of sexy French kissing won’t set your fireworks off too soon, a good old-fashioned necking-on-the-couch session before lovemaking is an arousing, classic way to create some heat before sky rockets take flight.
Consider Going Tantric
Try tantric sex to help stop premature ejaculation in its tracks more often than not. Tantric sexuality has a spiritual focus where the art of foreplay is all about becoming one with a deeper connection to your sexual consciousness and that of your partner’s. To put that concept more simply, tantric sex is focused more on the journey than the destination. A fully satisfying and meaningful tantric sexual practice can take years to strengthen and hone, so some “oops” releases along the way can be expected from even male lovers with great stamina.
Prolonging the moment you orgasm starts with learning and respecting how your body works, then planning your foreplay game plan around your needs. Stop premature ejaculation more often by tuning in to your partner’s pleasure first, giving you more time to breathe through those urges until the time is right to let go.
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