Sex can be embarrassing, right? We’ve all been there. Maybe there’s an outbreak of wind, or a squelchy noise that might make us blush. After all, put two people together in a sex situation and it’s rarely like how you see it portrayed in the movies. From awkward positioning to early ejaculation, there’s a whole load of things that can go wrong.
Usually, the best you can do in these situations is laugh it off and carry on regardless. If you’re close enough to someone to be in bed with them, then you shouldn’t have to worry about anything that, at the end of the day you are both adults. Sex is rarely the soft focused dream-like sequence that we’re used to seeing on screen. Real life is not a fairy-tale.
So what about if your problem is one where you just can’t “keep calm and carry on.” If you suffer from the age old problem of coming too soon, then don’t worry. You’re certainly not alone; it happens to practically every guy at one time or another. But what if it becomes a regular occurrence? Early ejaculation can damage your confidence, and affect your sex life in ways you definitely don’t want.
The key to overcoming any problems in the department is communication. There’s no reason why an episode of early ejaculation can’t actually improve your relationship. People can be reticent to talk to their partners about what is going on between the sheets, even when they’ve been together for years and years. Making love is such a personal thing that any perceived criticism could do more harm than good. So it’s much better to approach this subject with a lot of tact and care. It pays to be open and honest, though, so don’t put it off. The longer you procrastinate about anything, the bigger deal it becomes. Don’t make things harder than they need to be; you will save yourself a lot of heartaches if you just grab the bull by the metaphorical horns.
So what practical things can be done to help the fun between the sheets last that bit longer? It doesn’t have to cost a fortune – there are lots of ways you can try and prevent premature ejaculation without medication or surgery.
Try to exercise your pelvic floor muscles as the help to control and support the penis. You can effectively override your body’s natural circuitry if you try hard and practice regularly. Try the stop-start technique too, which will lengthen the time you can sustain your lovemaking. Take your time too. Relaxing the tempo will make you less likely to come too soon. You can always try squeezing the head of your penis as you feel the need to activate until the moment passes. While this can interrupt the mood, it is useful in preventing early ejaculation.
It’s always worth getting it checked out the doctor if you suddenly had erectile problems or early ejaculation when you haven’t had them before. It could be linked to something more serious so do seek help. Don’t be embarrassed to talk to your doctor about these private now says he’s heard it all before or after all it’s his job. He certainly won’t be embarrassed so make sure you aren’t either. Its an incredibly common condition … you probably are just one of many men he sees every week who need the same help.
There are no quick fixes. Sure, medications like Viagra can help, but it’s going to take a time to overcome the issue altogether. Patience is required, as is a positive mental attitude. Sometimes with stress worry about me going to last can be counterproductive and make satisfying lovemaking close to impossible. Keep communicating with your partner. Try the techniques mentioned above and enjoy the practising part…. Your relationship could soon be stronger than ever!
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