When it comes to problems with performance, premature ejaculation is the most common disorder in the world. Almost every guy will experience this frustrating condition at some point during his adult life and many will experience it on a chronic basis. As the condition is woefully under-reported, statistics on the condition tend to be scarce but conservative estimates figure around one-third of the American male population is struggling with early ejaculation at any given time – that’s around 30 million men.
With a condition this common, treatment options abound. For long-term success you need to take on a long-term treatment that addresses the problem at its root. But that, obviously, takes some time to work and, in the meantime, men are left feeling as though they essentially have to give up sex. But that can actually hinder a man’s overall chance of success as it adds more stress and anxiety to the mix which, in turn, can exacerbate the problem. Instead, try one of these five options which help to address the problem while still letting men – and their partners – connect and have some fun.
- Use Numbing Agents – Creams, gels and special condoms can all be used to reduce the sensitivity of the penis, allowing men to last longer. These remedies are fast acting and are often the first line of defence for men who deal with premature ejaculation sporadically. While not intended for long-term use they are fine to use for a few weeks or even months as other treatment options are explored.
- Mutual Masturbation – Masturbation is sometimes used as a form of sex therapy in order to help men better identify the subtle signs of an impending orgasm. Bring this therapy into the bedroom with a little mutual masturbation either as part of foreplay or as the main sex act. Not only will it let each partner have some fun, it also brings a couple closer as it lets a man’s partner become a part of the solution.
- Change Positions Often – If you experience premature ejaculation more often in certain positions, try simply changing them up. Better yet, change positions every few minutes in order to prevent over-stimulation and to see how different angles affect how quickly you approach orgasm. Many men find that positions where they are able to enter from behind, such as the iconic Doggy Position, helps to reduce stimulation along the penis and improves their overall stamina.
- Break Out the Bondage Gear – Okay, don’t worry, we’re not talking ball gags and chains or anything (unless that’s your thing!) but instead consider cock rings. These rings are often used to engorge the penis more fully and can be used to help reduce premature ejaculation and even erectile dysfunction.
- Focus on Your Partner – If all else fails and you still find yourself ejaculating far too early, forget about your own problems for a while and simply focus on pleasing your partner. Oral sex, finger manipulation and using sex toys are all great ways to keep your partner pleased – and even please yourself – no matter what else is happening. Focusing on her needs also takes your mind off the issue completely and, in some cases, can help men achieve another erection after their initial orgasm which then lasts longer.
While it’s impossible to prevent early ejaculation from affecting your sex life at all, there are ways to keep it from putting the brakes on your love life. It requires some creative thinking and an open mind, but the benefits are well worth the effort. This approach gives men the opportunity to have some fun, stay connected to their partner and reduce stress through sexual activity from the very beginning of their treatment plan.
