3 Questions about Premature Ejaculation Most People Would Ask

Men often struggle with sexual disorders, and they are quite good at the struggling part. While women open up relatively easily in most cases, men lock themselves into misery and despair, and stay there until a life situation forces them to address the problem and face the issue head on. Premature ejaculation is one of these problems, but if you possess adequate knowledge on this condition – and sexual issues in general -, you are much more likely to succeed in finding a solution. Here are the most common questions and their answers you were likely looking for, from a sexual therapist.

What Causes Premature Ejaculation?

Sexual therapists and urologists are often not on the same page when it comes to this condition, mostly because they tend to work with men at very different ages. Both can be right or wrong, but the difference comes down to this: urologists usually work with older or middle-age people where vascular and organ problems are often present, while sexual therapists usually help the younger generations. The reason for that is simple, young people are more likely to be physically healthy, so when they have a sexual problem like premature ejaculation, the root cause is often psychological.

Naturally, sometimes young people can have problems with their body – an injury caused by nerve damage, or untreated diabetes -, but at younger ages, the mental health problems are more likely the triggers. Despite that, sometimes they are even convinced that there is an underlying physical issue, and that stress is what creates the problem in the first place. Urologists tend to prescribe medication a little too freely these days, which, if the problem is indeed mental, only strengthens the condition.

What Are These Mental Problems? Is It That Difficult to Have Sex If You Are a Man?

The direct cause of premature ejaculation and other sexual conditions is often anxiety. In these cases, we are talking about a specific form of anxiety, linked to sexual performance. Sometimes the anxiety comes from other facets of life, like fearing of going bankrupt, or simply lacking self-confidence. That may be the trigger, and after the bad sexual experience, the person in question starts focusing on that. They start to fear that it will happen again, raising their own anxiety levels.

Many men find themselves in this vicious circle, and once they are in it, it stays with them for a while, and they cannot get over it without help. Worrying about it only makes the problem bigger, since they will be even more afraid of failure. They can overcome it more easily if their partner is helpful, emphatic. If the female party is not the emphatic type, they often become part of the problem. This is where a sexual therapist can help a lot, and that is the reason why it is beneficial to visit a psychologist together. Men suffering from premature ejaculation react well to psychotherapy.

Are There Men Who Never Had to Face Sexual Performance Problems?

It is highly unlikely, or if there are, they are usually very young people who are yet to develop real sexual experience. Almost all adult males had to face some kind of sexual problem at one point or another. Whether it was premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction is another question, but it’s very important to understand that men are not machines. There are expectations – mostly set by men themselves – that a male has to be able to perform in every situation, any time, but that is just not the reality of men, and it is not the reality of sex.

Summary

Sex can be wonderful, but sometimes it isn’t, and when that happens, it is important to not feel like the sky is falling. If you are suffering from premature ejaculation, understand that it is a common problem that happens to the best of us, and instead of dwelling on it and develop extra anxiety over it, focus on the solution.