By now, most guys know that early ejaculation is a serious and common issue. These same men also know that in order to be successful, they need a good support system. That means reaching out
to other guys who have gone through the problem or who are currently struggling with the same issue. What many guys don’t realise – or try to ignore – is that talking to your partner is also necessary if you want to set yourself up for success.
Why Talking to Your Partner is So Important
Bringing your partner into the conversation is an important piece of any successful early ejaculation treatment for a number of reasons. First and foremost, it shows you trust and value her opinion. Because let’s get one thing straight right off the bat – if you’re experiencing sexual performance problems, your wife, girlfriend or steady sexual partner already knows about it. Women may not be quick to bring the topic up, but they are sure to notice when you’re off your game. When their man doesn’t eventually come to them and address it openly, they start to wonder if they are the problem, if he’s just not interested anymore or if he simply doesn’t care about her opinion or in getting her help.
Secondly, talking to your partner also alleviates some of the stress associated with the condition which can help prevent future episodes and even help improve the condition overall. Since stress and anxiety are common triggers, talking to your partner and bringing it out into the open takes the secrecy out of it which, in turn, takes away a lot of the stress and anxiety. Finally, bringing her into the conversation will means there is one more person looking for treatment options, learning about the condition and supporting you openly as you try different approaches to treat the condition.
How to Have The Conversation
Talking about sex isn’t always easy, even for couples who communicate openly and freely. Sex is, after all, a difficult subject no matter what. So when it comes to sexual problems, the conversation is even more difficult. Here are some tips to help make it a little less awkward:
• Make it Short and Sweet – When you are getting ready to talk to your partner, try not to turn it into a lecture on what early ejaculation is or a history lesson on your journey up until this point. Just open the conversation by acknowledging this is something she is probably already aware of and that you want to tackle the issue together.
• Be Receptive and Non-Judgemental – While most women are aware of various sexual problems for men, they aren’t likely to be as well-versed as you are on the topic. Listen to what she has to say and answer her questions without saying things like “I can’t believe you don’t know this” or anything similar.
• Keep an Open Mind When it Comes to Treatments – One of the benefits of talking to your partner about this problem is that you have another person who can help you brainstorm about treatment options. So don’t shoot her suggestions down even if they don’t strike you as being especially promising. Be willing to try things even if you don’t think they will work. After all, it probably won’t hurt anything and showing that you’re willing to go outside your comfort zone will show her how serious you are finding a solution.
Talking to your partner about early ejaculation may not be easy, but it is an effective way to improve your chances of success when it comes to improving your sex life. Not only does it strengthen your support system, it can also add a new dimension to you relationship. So take this opportunity to tackle the problem once and for all by addressing it as a team.